child than another doesn't make it good.
Secondly, I don't consider the life you've described as ideal for children. The children are institutionalized for at least 40 hours a week.
And, thirdly, to answer your question about whom I would have watch over my loved ones, the answer is NEITHER. Both couples you describe would be untrustworthy.
Christians should not be warmongers! http://www.lewrockwell.com/vance/vance87.html