not violence is being done. Like that situation (on the DP recently) where the police officer is trying his best to stop the man who's holding a knife up to a toddler while threatening to kill the child. The police tried talking kindly and reasoning. He took no personal pleasure in killing the man--He was doing what had to be done to save the life of an innocent child. And he will probably second-guess himself for the rest of his life.
However, if he'd have been angry and said something like "die, you m-------r", and laughed while the guy died, I would think he just liked committing violence.
When I correct my child, it's not for my sake--so I can have an easier life, etc. It is for their sake--I want them to be safe and loving and understand crime and consequences--so they won't end up hurting other people and themselves.
Christians should not be warmongers! http://www.lewrockwell.com/vance/vance87.html